About love lost and how sometimes it’s totally okay

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Sometimes someone comes into your life that surprises you. You don’t intend what happens, but sometimes it just does. And it doesn’t have to be anything physical; it can be all emotional. You get close, closer than you maybe should. And then you realize that you’ve caught a little case of feelings; as it turns out, they have, too.

It doesn’t mean anything, no one is going to act on it.

But all the same, when it looks like it’s gone, either by your choice, theirs, or mutually, it still kind of hurts. It doesn’t matter why it’s gone, that’s not really the important part. What is important is that it’s suddenly gone.

So, you have two options, as I see it. You can be sad, wallow in the grief that even if it comes around again the relationship will never be the same. Or you can dust yourself off, be thankful for whatever it was for however long it was, and what it did for you at the time.

Maybe it made you feel beautiful again, or desirable. Maybe it was just an ego boost. Maybe it was just the feeling of connecting with someone on a level that you haven’t experienced in awhile. Maybe it was just because it was something new.

Doesn’t matter.

You remember the good times. Remember the fun. And realize that even throughout all of this you’ve protected your heart and you don’t hurt as badly as you thought. You will always think fondly of them, and hope that maybe somewhere down the road you can reconnect again; different people but still with some small connection.

If you cannot hold me in your arms, then hold my memory in high regard.
And if I cannot be in your life, then at least let me live in your heart

Ranata Suzuki

You wish them well. You look at your life to try and figure out how you got to this point, you learn your lessons, and you move on.

Sometimes the best things are the ones that teach you the most.

Currently listening: Amy, I by Jack’s Mannequin

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